It was bound to come up. I was hoping it might not, but it did. We had a couple over for dinner on New Year’s Day. We had a wonderful time, doing what couples do: reviewing our Christmas holidays and what we did on NY Eve—for the record, we made it past midnight—and the state of our dogs and kids. Then, the question was asked. “So, Tim what are your goals for this year?” There it was. I took a breath and offered that I was focused on … [Read more...]
Why the advice you get doesn’t work
The best advice—or at least the advice I recall most vividly—that I ever got from my father was not about golf, school or business. It was about how to talk to a girl. Early one morning in our suburban living room, both of us in our pyjamas sitting on our floral coach, I told Dad about my predicament. At my high school, there was this angelic black-haired girl with dark brown eyes and olive skin. I was completely head-over-heels. But I was in … [Read more...]
Sticking up for Yourself?
Other than at work, most guys would rather put their hand into a burning flame than tell another man what to do. Even if it’s couched as a polite ask. And even if whatever the other man is doing is bugging the hell out of us. We suck at speaking up for ourselves. It happens in golf all the time. Let’s say you’re setting up to putt, and you notice that a member of your group is standing behind you on your line. He’s gathering intel on how his … [Read more...]
What to Think About Over the Ball?
During a Zoom group coaching call last week, one of our participants was fidgeting like a five-year-old after a birthday party. My Golf is Life online group was discussing some on-course strategies when—with obvious exasperation—he blurted, “Yes, that’s great. But what do you think about when you’re over the ball?” Everyone laughed. He hit a collective nerve; it was a flashpoint of recognition of everyone's never-ending search for the … [Read more...]
Slow & Steady Isn’t the Only Way to Win at Golf
It's always surprising when the golf season closes. It seems as if one minute you’re in shorts, and the next thing you’re sporting a toque.It seems that things happen pretty quickly in all parts of life, except, unfortunately, on a golf course. This blog isn’t about slow play and how to play faster, which has been covered thoroughly elsewhere.This is about a recent experience that reminded me you can play well—and perhaps even better—by playing … [Read more...]