A question for men: You hear a sexist joke. Do you say anything?

Victory was declared yesterday in the worldwide movement against sexual misconduct. Harvey Weinstein was convicted of sexual assault, and now faces up to 29 years in jail. “It’s a perfect test case of what happens when a culture begins to shift,” Deborah Tuerkheimer, a law professor, told The New York Times.This momentary victory will add momentum to the fight against predators, but it’s my sense that a significant change … [Read more...]

How can men make the world safer for women?

On Saturday morning, I was steeling myself for another Globe and Mail article connected to the sexual abuse of Megan Brown, a former University of Guelph athlete. I coach the golf team at Guelph.Instead, I found a disturbing story about a report that the late Jean Vanier, the Canadian founder of L’Arche, had sexually exploited a number of women employees.Really? Jean Vanier! This hit me hard because as a Roman Catholic, and the nephew of two … [Read more...]

She’s Got Game: A timely event to share and heal

Martha Billes, Chancellor of the University of Guelph, addresses the She's Got Game Gala at the university on Feb. 15 I attended the 5th Annual She’s Got Game Gala at the University of Guelph on Feb. 15. It’s an annual event to raise funds for and celebrate female athletes at the university. The timing was interesting and fortunate. The event came after a brutal week for anyone associated with the university—I’m the golf … [Read more...]

The toughest—and best—questions that you can ask yourself

One of my favourite Monty Python bits is the deadliest joke sketch—about a joke so funny that it killed whoever read or heard it.   My vote for the hardest question that you can ask yourself is this: Do I do what I say I am going to do? Most everyone hates this question. It's a beast. Asking yourself this question is more difficult than if someone else asks it. You could evade, bullshit, weave a … [Read more...]

Why your storytelling leads to the ‘spiral vortex of death’ and more missed putts

As he rushed past me at a university golf tournament this fall, the wide-eyed young player exclaimed, "I've missed five putts within 10 feet. I can’t putt!” He was telling himself one hell of a story. As a coach of a university golf team (Guelph), I hear plenty of stories from anguished players who don’t want to let their teammates down. ‘I can’t close a good round; I’m such a choker.’ ‘I can't get a break.' In other coaching, I also … [Read more...]

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