The toughest—and best—questions that you can ask yourself

One of my favourite Monty Python bits is the deadliest joke sketch—about a joke so funny that it killed whoever read or heard it.   My vote for the hardest question that you can ask yourself is this: Do I do what I say I am going to do? Most everyone hates this question. It's a beast. Asking yourself this question is more difficult than if someone else asks it. You could evade, bullshit, weave a … [Read more...]

Why your storytelling leads to the ‘spiral vortex of death’ and more missed putts

As he rushed past me at a university golf tournament this fall, the wide-eyed young player exclaimed, "I've missed five putts within 10 feet. I can’t putt!” He was telling himself one hell of a story. As a coach of a university golf team (Guelph), I hear plenty of stories from anguished players who don’t want to let their teammates down. ‘I can’t close a good round; I’m such a choker.’ ‘I can't get a break.' In other coaching, I also … [Read more...]

The perils of pressure: meltdowns, helicopters … and headaches

The Ontario university golf championship provides a window on the affects of pressure October 23, 2017—By a large margin, the Ryder Cup is the most exciting event in golf for one simple reason—emotion. When the individual game becomes a team game, the mental and emotional circuits are prone to running hotter. As fans, we lap up all that fist-pumping drama. Whether you are a pro or an amateur, learning how to manage yourself … [Read more...]

A slightly different mantra could make you more resilient

Ezine #10, June 14, 2017—I didn’t have the luxury of easing into my new role with the University of Guelph golf team. My first tournament as head coach was the Canadian University/College Championship two weeks ago. Our five-member men’s team had a nice mix of veterans and young players, but only two had played in the national championship before. (Our women’s team didn’t qualify this year.) I was looking for a way to help them cope with the … [Read more...]

Gryphons hire Tim O’Connor as new Golf Team Head Coach

GUELPH, Ont. (April 3, 2017) -- The University of Guelph, Department of Athletics is pleased to announce the hiring of Tim O'Connor as the new head coach of the Gryphon Golf team. O'Connor has previously been with the team as an assistant coach since 2015. The decision to join the Gryphon family was an easy one for O'Connor. "I am excited by this opportunity to lead university age golfers in becoming better golfers, better teammates and … [Read more...]