How can you help someone during the virus crisis? Just listen

We must love one another or die.                                          From the poem September 1, 1939 by W.H. AudenAs a society, our survival depends on loving each other, but our culture doesn’t know how to do it very well.Especially now, when there’s so much fear and stress, we need to connect more than ever with each … [Read more...]

A question for men: You hear a sexist joke. Do you say anything?

Victory was declared yesterday in the worldwide movement against sexual misconduct. Harvey Weinstein was convicted of sexual assault, and now faces up to 29 years in jail. “It’s a perfect test case of what happens when a culture begins to shift,” Deborah Tuerkheimer, a law professor, told The New York Times.This momentary victory will add momentum to the fight against predators, but it’s my sense that a significant change … [Read more...]

How can men make the world safer for women?

On Saturday morning, I was steeling myself for another Globe and Mail article connected to the sexual abuse of Megan Brown, a former University of Guelph athlete. I coach the golf team at Guelph.Instead, I found a disturbing story about a report that the late Jean Vanier, the Canadian founder of L’Arche, had sexually exploited a number of women employees.Really? Jean Vanier! This hit me hard because as a Roman Catholic, and the nephew of two … [Read more...]

Bearing witness to fierceness of a blessing kind on a men’s weekend

I feel blessed that I attended a community get-together for men who belong to the ManKind Project Ontario this past weekend. I feel blessed that I can talk to men about the real things in my life—about what scares me, makes me feel crappy, and bewilders me, including what’s going on with the Leafs. I feel blessed that I witnessed a man tearfully disclose a brutal situation in his life to a roomful of men, who then thanked him for showing … [Read more...]

Some great big and not very scary words on commitment

In my twenties, I was in my Mordecai Richler novel phase. Geez, that guy loved to trot out some $10,000 words. I'd have to look some of them up. Words such as corpulent (obese), capacious (roomy) and perfidiousness (betrayal, lack of trust). After I'd look up the word, it seemed as though I would then trip over it every few days. I went from having never seen the word to seeing it all the time. Since delivering a series of workshops and … [Read more...]