Bearing witness to fierceness of a blessing kind on a men’s weekend

I feel blessed that I attended a community get-together for men who belong to the ManKind Project Ontario this past weekend. I feel blessed that I can talk to men about the real things in my life—about what scares me, makes me feel crappy, and bewilders me, including what’s going on with the Leafs. I feel blessed that I witnessed a man tearfully disclose a brutal situation in his life to a roomful of men, who then thanked him for showing … [Read more...]

Some great big and not very scary words on commitment

In my twenties, I was in my Mordecai Richler novel phase. Geez, that guy loved to trot out some $10,000 words. I'd have to look some of them up. Words such as corpulent (obese), capacious (roomy) and perfidiousness (betrayal, lack of trust). After I'd look up the word, it seemed as though I would then trip over it every few days. I went from having never seen the word to seeing it all the time. Since delivering a series of workshops and … [Read more...]

Did the universe perform a random act of kindness for me?

Ezine #9—When I sat in my seat on Flight 1126 very early last week, I thought, ‘What just happened? How did I possibly make this flight?’ But something made it possible. It’s been a week since the ordeal, and I’m still not sure. I feel a little like the disbelieving Dad in a sitcom who rents a house with his family, and the kids come running into his bedroom on the first night screaming. “A ghost is throwing books on the floor and … [Read more...]

Cracked wide open on Mankind Weekend

              I was cracked wide open—sensing things I usually don’t. Yesterday morning, I saw the pinecone on a blue ribbon that warns birds not to crash into our kitchen window as it fidgeted against the pane. I noticed the kitchen clock ticking. Mozart stopped me in my tracks. My world expands the day after I’ve staffed a New Warrior Training Adventure as I did this past weekend with … [Read more...]

Good Men Project — What to do before you complain

  Tim O'Connor understands 'You spot it, you got it.' What I complain about in others is in me.  (Originally posted April 30, 2013) Here’s a neat trick you can try next time you find yourself complaining about someone: After you’ve started spewing forth your judgments and opining about your target’s shortcomings, extend one arm and make a pretend gun as if you were five years old. (Guys will know instinctively what to do. Your … [Read more...]