The perils of pressure: meltdowns, helicopters … and headaches

The Ontario university golf championship provides a window on the affects of pressure October 23, 2017—By a large margin, the Ryder Cup is the most exciting event in golf for one simple reason—emotion. When the individual game becomes a team game, the mental and emotional circuits are prone to running hotter. As fans, we lap up all that fist-pumping drama. Whether you are a pro or an amateur, learning how to manage yourself … [Read more...]

A blog about judgment; I hope you approve

Ezine #3—When my boys were in high school, I often suggested they join various clubs and participate in social activities beyond sports. Apparently, however, engaging in such things would be “uncool.” Of course, I translated uncool to mean, “I’d love to act on your great wisdom dear father, but I’m terribly afraid of being judged by my mean-spirited peers.” You don’t have to be a teenager to be concerned about what people think about you. … [Read more...]

It ain’t weird, don’t be scared–it’s meditation

Being alone with your thoughts sounds nice, but on the golf course our minds often resemble the barking dog next door that just won't shut the hell up. The yapping thoughts in my head rarely have anything nice to say, especially when I have a shot over water or a good back nine going. My thoughts are usually warning me about the horrible things that will happen when I inevitably screw up. For most of us, our minds are like a big untrained … [Read more...]

Get results by focusing on what you really can control

I wrote this column for the recent issue of Canadian Junior Golf Association magazine, and added a few new bits. I believe that focusing on process rather than results can pay dividends in most everything we do. During a recent phone call with a 16-year-old client, he said gravely, “Coach, can I ask you something?” He was bummed out about the qualifying event that he had played that day. He teed off focusing on a low number. But his front … [Read more...]

Why do you play golf? You might be surprised

As the golf season gets underway and you re-engage in your precarious affair with the game, I’m going to challenge you to do something you may have never done. But first... if someone—usually a non-golfer—asks what you like about golf, you might talk about getting exercise, being outside in a beautiful place, and spending time with friends and family. If you’re an avid player, all of that may be true, but you’re really just scratching the … [Read more...]