Tired of failing to realize your resolutions? Create your mission first 

I’ll bet your goals for a new golf season have been similar to mine throughout the years. Typically, I went into each new season seeking to practice more, which would—I hope—lower my handicap, cut down on three-putts, and increase my fairways-hit stat. How have you done with those goals? Hmm, generally not so great, eh? Me neither. But for the last few years, I’ve done something a little differently … and I invite you to give it a … [Read more...]

Cut your story short before it becomes a drama 

When it was all over, he couldn’t believe the agony that he put himself through. In need of a new swing coach, the college golfer contacted a well-known instructor. The instructor asked for his tournament resume, bio and some swing videos, and promised to get back to him quickly. The player, a client of mine on a U.S. scholarship, emailed the information without delay. As the days ticked by without a reply, the young man’s mind began … [Read more...]

Why your storytelling leads to the ‘spiral vortex of death’ and more missed putts

As he rushed past me at a university golf tournament this fall, the wide-eyed young player exclaimed, "I've missed five putts within 10 feet. I can’t putt!” He was telling himself one hell of a story. As a coach of a university golf team (Guelph), I hear plenty of stories from anguished players who don’t want to let their teammates down. ‘I can’t close a good round; I’m such a choker.’ ‘I can't get a break.' In other coaching, I also … [Read more...]

Ben Kern convinced me golf could be fun. Wow! Who knew?

Trend speak drives me crazy. No one tells stories anymore. Now everything is a ‘narrative.’ Rather than delve into an issue, we ‘unpack’ it. Ugh. Another trendy word is ‘disruptor,’ which is generally trotted out these days to describe intrepid entrepreneurs who swoop down like super heroes and carry us to enlightened consumer nirvana. Actually, I like disruptor, although a substitute could be shit-disturber. Sometimes it’s dangerous to … [Read more...]

Hey Tiger! You’ve lost a step but you’ll win again

Hey Tiger, I hope you’re feeling better. I know it sucks after coming so close to winning the Open Championship. Well, I kinda know what you might be feeling. Sorta anyway. At least, the part that you might be feeling about being 42 and getting older, and not being able to do what you used to do with such ease. I feel somewhat empowered to write you given how long I’ve watched you—hey, I was there in 1997 when you won that first green … [Read more...]