Asking a potentially ‘stupid’ question is a smart thing to do

Do you find yourself in situations where you feel compelled to ask a question but don't out of fear how you'll be judged? Sometimes, the bravest and smartest thing you can do is to take the risk--and ask the question. “It's better to keep your mouth shut and appear stupid than open it and remove all doubt.”― Mark Twain This bon mot attributed to the author of Tom Sawyer is regarded as a sage piece of wisdom, but sometimes staying silent … [Read more...]

Realizing what’s important helps Rory break through

When he knocked in his last putt to close the deal on the PLAYERS Championship on Sunday—mercifully killing off the dominant story of 2019—Rory McIlroy showed little emotion. He didn’t exult or act like he’d got a monkey off his back by finally winning after so many close calls that had the chattering classes of golf wondering if the four-time major champion had lost his ability to win when in contention. Going back to last year, McIlroy … [Read more...]

What kind of golfer do you want to be in 2019?

With apologies to Dale Carnegie, do you want to win friends and influence people on the golf course this year? Of course, you do. No one wants to be a jerk—self-absorbed, petulant and pouting (‘Oops, did you say something?’), dis-interested and disconnected (‘I didn’t see it’), fulminating at the golf gods (‘Wow! Another three-putt!’), or a blamer (‘I can’t putt on greens this slow!’). No. You want people to want to play golf with … [Read more...]

Tired of failing to realize your resolutions? Create your mission first 

I’ll bet your goals for a new golf season have been similar to mine throughout the years. Typically, I went into each new season seeking to practice more, which would—I hope—lower my handicap, cut down on three-putts, and increase my fairways-hit stat. How have you done with those goals? Hmm, generally not so great, eh? Me neither. But for the last few years, I’ve done something a little differently … and I invite you to give it a … [Read more...]

Cut your story short before it becomes a drama 

When it was all over, he couldn’t believe the agony that he put himself through. In need of a new swing coach, the college golfer contacted a well-known instructor. The instructor asked for his tournament resume, bio and some swing videos, and promised to get back to him quickly. The player, a client of mine on a U.S. scholarship, emailed the information without delay. As the days ticked by without a reply, the young man’s mind began … [Read more...]