The rarely taught but important skill of listening

November 27, 2017—It was about seven or eight years into my marriage when I learned a very important needed lesson. When Sandy would get home from work, we'd usually talk about our day while I made dinner. Every once in a while, she’d be frustrated, and vent about a problem at the office, which invariably involved various people. As she was speaking, I would start formulating my solutions to her quandary, cut her short, and prescribe my … [Read more...]

Moe Norman mined his own gold; so can you

Ezine #11, August 30, 2017 — Moe Norman lived a bittersweet life. He was the best ball-striker in history but he had an excruciating inferiority complex. Not about his ability to hit a golf ball, but he felt inferior in just about every other way. Most people who are seeking to become better golfers also feel inferior. It’s part of golf's culture. The core message that most people take from golf culture is this:  ‘I am broken and I need … [Read more...]

Better Golf Through Awareness

Ezine #10, June 28, 2017—Most amateurs think the pros on TV are super chill, under control and thinking the right thoughts. You would be wrong. They can be just as crazy as the rest of us. But the difference between the best and the rest is that elite players know how to deal with harrowing thoughts and feelings through awareness and process. One of the best examples is the story of Jason Day during the final round of the 2015 PGA … [Read more...]

A slightly different mantra could make you more resilient

Ezine #10, June 14, 2017—I didn’t have the luxury of easing into my new role with the University of Guelph golf team. My first tournament as head coach was the Canadian University/College Championship two weeks ago. Our five-member men’s team had a nice mix of veterans and young players, but only two had played in the national championship before. (Our women’s team didn’t qualify this year.) I was looking for a way to help them cope with the … [Read more...]

Getting even with your nemesis hole

This article orginally appeared in the Spring 2017 edition of ClubLink Life. Ezine #8—For as long as Jordan Spieth steps on the tee box of No. 12 at Augusta National, I’ll bet he will suffer a little pinch of pain in his psyche. I'm also betting he'll get over it. The talented Texan has made a mess of the beautiful par-three in the last two Masters: in 2016, Spieth was leading when he dunked two shots in Rae’s Creek, made a seven and … [Read more...]