What’s this mess of feelings we’re feeling? Grief

I read a friend’s email and thought she was feeling down. I was feeling low myself.  I popped in my headphones, headed out for a walk and phoned her. We both commiserated that we had the Lockdown Blues—from the grind of staying at home day after day, the hits to our businesses, and so on. One reason she was sad was because, if not for the virus, she would have been on vacation in the sunny south. On top of that, she felt guilty about … [Read more...]

My most memorable Christmas

The O'Connor gang circa Christmas 1976 or so taken by my father. A happy group, I'd say. A couple of days ago, a friend asked: ‘What’s the most memorable Christmas gift you have ever received or given?’ Instantly, I thought when I was about 14 and my father brought home a boxer puppy late on Christmas Eve, and entrusted me to keep it company and quiet overnight in the basement. There was also the sweater that Sandy knit for me … [Read more...]

‘College boy’ takes a manly risk in the beer store

This blog plunges deeply into the drama of my experience in trying to determine if two cases of 12 Sleeman were the same price as 24, and how my status as a manly man hung in the balance.‘ Oh man. This is confusing. Geez Tim, you should be able to figure this out.’ What was the crisis at the root of this great moment of anxiety? Here’s what: I was standing at the back of the Willow Street Beer Store in Guelph looking down at cases of Sleeman … [Read more...]

A ‘mistake’ makes a sad day more sad

How sad ... on a day when Canadians should come together to honour our war dead, Don Cherry's words and firing breed more diviseness. Let's work together people. When I listened to the supper-hour CBC Radio News coverage of Remembrance Day on Monday, it seemed even sadder than usual. It’s always sobering to consider the trauma that Canadian soldiers have suffered in wars around the world in standing up for our country and our values. I felt … [Read more...]

Does failing to deliver on my commitments mean I’m an unconscious jerk?

Can you say you're going to do something ... and then NOT do it ... and still be in integrity? You might be surprised. Is God so powerful that he could make a rock so big that even he couldn’t lift … [Read more...]