Tim O'Connor

Tim O'Connor is a golf performance coach, an award-winning writer, author of four books, presenter, editor and a leader in training in the ManKind Project

How Lou Reed taught me to play better golf

In this blog, originally published in March 2017, I recall Lou Reed telling me in an interview that he didn't worry about what his songs meant. Otherwise, he might 'interfere with the process' of songwriting. Years later, I realized it was a great lesson for golf, writing and any kind of performance. Need a pick-me up during the lockdown? Listen to Rock 'n' Roll from Rock 'n' Roll Animal.  I had the coolest job in the world. In my world, at … [Read more...]

Why I play golf: Gifts from Dad

Yesterday (April 16, 2020) would have been my father’s 88th birthday. He passed away three years ago in January. I miss him.The timing is interesting. On Monday, I invited readers of my blog to do a writing exercise about why they play golf. On Tuesday, I did the exercise, and my father Dennis was all over that thing.I’ve been asking coaching clients to do this for years because it provides clarity on what we’re seeking, it acts like a mission … [Read more...]

Why I Play Golf

I asked readers of this blog Monday to write out Why I Play Golf, and I gave pretty specific instructions on how to do this. As I was thinking last night about what I’d write this morning, it occurred to me that I should do it myself. I have done it a few times, but not for a couple of years.Around 6:30 this morning, I sat down and blasted this out below in one go. I didn’t backspace, stop or pause except for a few sips of coffee. When I … [Read more...]

Before you play golf again, I have a little question for you: Why? (The question works for non-golfers too)

The day after the Masters is traditionally a day of renewal for golfers.If not for the coronavirus, we would be rehashing another Sunday thrill-ride at Augusta National.Last year, we were caught up in the afterglow of one of the greatest comebacks in the history of sports when Tiger Woods inexplicably won the Masters for his 15th major after it appeared that his battered body and soul were incapable of more.Having watched a good portion of … [Read more...]

A model male for our strange times: Derek

I’d like you to meet Derek. He is the kindest, most humble, gentlest person I know, and yes, he’s too good to be true.Derek is a fictional character, the title character of the Netflix show of the same name. If you’re looking for an inspirational character to help you get through the lockdown, I invite you to check out Derek. Like a lot of great British TV, watching Derek is a strange and sometimes uncomfortable experience. I’m attracted and … [Read more...]