Tim O'Connor

Tim O'Connor is a golf performance coach, an award-winning writer, author of four books, presenter, editor and a leader in training in the ManKind Project

The rarely taught but important skill of listening

November 27, 2017—It was about seven or eight years into my marriage when I learned a very important needed lesson. When Sandy would get home from work, we'd usually talk about our day while I made dinner. Every once in a while, she’d be frustrated, and vent about a problem at the office, which invariably involved various people. As she was speaking, I would start formulating my solutions to her quandary, cut her short, and prescribe my … [Read more...]

The perils of pressure—Part Three

Following Monday's and Wednesday's posts that looked at how young university golfers melted down at the Ontario championship and the common reasons why, I conclude this thread with thoughts on how you can keep it together both on the golf course and off.   October 27, 2017—So how to do you stop yourself from getting to the point that you might break a psychic gasket? The following are techniques that will help during a round when you … [Read more...]

The perils of pressure—Part Two

In Monday's post, I noted that a number of players melted down during the Ontario university golf championship. Today, I describe how it happens.  October 25, 2017—To get a handle on how you can learn how to deal effectively with pressure, a good place to start is look at how golfers lose it in the first place. It starts with thinking. As a round progresses, players are prone to think more about their score and speculate on what their … [Read more...]

The perils of pressure: meltdowns, helicopters … and headaches

The Ontario university golf championship provides a window on the affects of pressure October 23, 2017—By a large margin, the Ryder Cup is the most exciting event in golf for one simple reason—emotion. When the individual game becomes a team game, the mental and emotional circuits are prone to running hotter. As fans, we lap up all that fist-pumping drama. Whether you are a pro or an amateur, learning how to manage yourself … [Read more...]

Moe Norman mined his own gold; so can you

Ezine #11, August 30, 2017 — Moe Norman lived a bittersweet life. He was the best ball-striker in history but he had an excruciating inferiority complex. Not about his ability to hit a golf ball, but he felt inferior in just about every other way. Most people who are seeking to become better golfers also feel inferior. It’s part of golf's culture. The core message that most people take from golf culture is this:  ‘I am broken and I need … [Read more...]