Tim O'Connor

Tim O'Connor is a golf performance coach, an award-winning writer, author of four books, presenter, editor and a leader in training in the ManKind Project

How I revisited a sad golf memory and created a new—and better—one

My late father Dennis and I enjoying a happy golf moment. Years earlier, we shared a not-so-swell golf memory at the Early Bird tourney. It started with an email from a fellow university golf coach. Jim Waite, long-time coach of the Western University men’s team, sent me a note about the upcoming Early Bird golf tournament, and asked if I’d send it along to my University of Guelph men’s team. Then, I thought, ‘Why don’t I enter?’ A lot of my … [Read more...]

Sometimes the best plan is to have no plan

Sometimes the best plan is to have no plan Like most club golfers, the greatest annual test of my golf is the club championship. In the Club C, it’s always fascinating to see how well I can incorporate the coaching and performance fundamentals that I provide to my clients. I want to empower my clients, but I want to play well too! If a coach doesn’t admit this to you, he or she is lying. I was in the A Flight this year. I had a frustrating … [Read more...]

The secret to making a swing change revealed—ignore your whiny ego

The secret to making a swing change revealed—ignore your whiny ego Hey, we're not grizzled veterans, just veteran ... coaches. Mike Martz (left) has helped me get my game back on track--and to stay with the process when I struggled."That shot had character,” Mike Martz said, watching one of my iron shots flying on a penetrating trajectory to the yellow flag on the range.“Character?” I inquired.The coach explained: … [Read more...]

A caddie’s tattered running shoes and a black life

Until a week or so ago, I was unaware of Juneteenth, which commemorates that on June 19, 1865, a group of enslaved people in Galveston, Texas learned that they had been freed by emancipation.At 63 years old, as a former journalist, and someone who considers himself fairly aware of social issues, I felt embarrassed that I was not aware of this important historical event, although I read in the New York Times today that “this holiday … only became … [Read more...]

The Voice doesn’t go away, but you can pause it

“How do I silence The Voice that is constantly saying negative things to me?"This is one of most frequently asked questions that I get every year as a coach who is known for dealing with mental stuff. In fact, I was asked twice this week during my Obedience Training For Your Brain webinars.What is The Voice? It's the innner dialogue in your head. That constantly barking critic that tells you what to do, and especially what you can't do. It calls … [Read more...]